I have always seen myself as a person with an addictive personality, declared that I know that I am an addict, but found all sorts of reasons and others to blame for it. ‘I can’t help it’, ‘I will stop when I am ready’, ‘My father was an alcoholic, addiction is in my DNA’, ‘My friends all drink, it is a social responsibility’, ‘I can’t be my best self unless I am on drugs/alcohol’. So I used drugs or alcohol irrespective of the cost or consequence. Does this sound familiar? Do you feel or understand that state.
I can now proudly say that I am free of the need of, or the excuse to be addicted to narcotics or alcohol. This is very intentional wording. Through my in-depth research, training as a Life Coach and Neurolinguistic Program (NLP) NLP Practioner, I have learnt the association between the conscious and subconscious mind. How your subconscious mind always acts on what you tell it to. The subconscious doesn’t understand negation. So if you are repeating that you don’t want to be an addict it doesn’t understand the ‘don’t and only hears the part of the statement that says ‘I WANT to be an addict’. So read the bold statement again.
I understand the feeling of coming out of rehab, attending Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous meetings and still feeling desperate. Still feeling like ‘I could fall off the wagon’ at any time. Feeling a failure because of my past addiction, depression and focusing on all the things that I would like to change.
With the combination of a life long war against my own issues with addiction and coaching others in overcoming difficulties and working towards their desired future outcome and my study and qualification as a Life Coach I am uniquely equipped to help addicts and their support group (Family and friends) in successfully move away from this dreadful disease and condition. What gives me the most confidence in the coaching program is not only my past experience in coaching others and my learning and certification is that I have applied everything that I teach and coach in my Sustainable Addiction Recovery coaching model to myself and it has worked.
More often then not the difficulties and challenges are not restricted to the addict. Sometimes as much or even more so the struggle of those that love the addict can be a difficult process. My program can include coaching on an individual basis for the people that love and care about the addict and need to understand how to support the addict through the recovery process.
I am of the firm belief that whereas the above are possible outlines that coaching must be flexible and focused on the needs of the individual as such these are just skeletal outlines. The addict and addict support coaching combined package can be tailored to your needs.
My program is not in conflict with or contradictory to support groups or 12 step recovery programmes. This compliments these important and effective organisations and methods. I myself found great support and these programmes contributed hugely to my own recovery.